In fall 2009, I started messaging with The Surfer on OLD site. We would go through times where we’d talk and then times that we wouldn’t. We’d try to set up meetings and they would fail for one reason or another. In May 2010, we started messaging again and decided to set up a meeting for coffee.
All through April and May I had also been messaging with The EMT. We really learned a lot about each other during that time and I shared a lot with him about the changes I was making in my life, how I was feeling about myself, etc. I shared things with him in our messaging that I hadn’t even shared with my Mom or best friend. He was really the only person that I told that I was trying to change a lot of things about myself. I really wanted to be stronger, more confident, and feel more self sufficient in every way. That is a huge reason I started kayaking and wanted a hobby in the first place. I wanted to step outside of my comfort zone and challenge myself.
So The EMT had just moved back to the area from Denver, Co. He still went back there frequently to work at his old hospital for a few weeks. That was the primary reason it took us so long to meet. He got back in town Memorial Day weekend and wanted to take me kayaking. I’d been sick for a week and was dying to get back out on the water. So we made plans for Memorial Day, the same day as my coffee date with the surfer. I was smart enough to plan one in the morning and the other in the afternoon.
My coffee date with The Surfer went great! He was REALLY cute and we got along famously. I was really excited about him! We sat at a local lake on a bench and talked for almost 3 hours. I learned about his 1 yr old son and his relationship with his ex. I also found out he had just bought a kayak! I would have loved to extend the date except I had to get to my other date! So we agreed we wanted to go out again and parted ways.
I drove down to the river and met up with The EMT. After months of messaging, I felt we knew each other so well and it was such a relief to finally meet! I greeted him with a huge hug! He had packed a picnic so we put our kayak in the water and paddled down to a park for our picnic. While we were eating, a storm came up. Fortunately there was a concrete shelter so we sat under there while the storm did it’s thing. Conditions got pretty bad, the wind was blowing and we had some really close lightning strikes. I was really scared. I do not do lightning! The EMT was very calming and comforting. We had some great conversations. We talked out his dad’s cancer and my mom’s cancer. We talked about past relationships and hurts. We talked about what I was looking for in dating and what he was looking for. Turns out they were different things. He wanted to be in polyamorus relationship. I wanted a monogamous relationship. We both agreed that we were interested in each other and would both keep an open mind.
Once the storm passed we enjoyed our kayak on the river. We saw two manatees and even stopped to watch one eat for about 15 mins. He was extremely knowledgeable about kayaking, the plants and the wild life. One thing that really attracted me to The EMT was that he was a very seasoned outdoorsman. He had a lot of knowledge on health and fitness. He made some recommendations to me on exercise and a running program called Couch to 5 K. I was also attracted to his stocky but very muscular body. That is not the body type I typically go for. I tend to like taller, thinner men. But, The EMT just seemed so manly that it was very sexy! We kissed a bit at the end of the date and those big strong arms around me were very powerful! We too decided to see each other again.
